"There is a pleasure in the pathless woods, There is a rapture on the lonely shore, There is society, where none intrudes, By the deep Sea, and music in its roarI love not Man the less, but Nature more."Lord Byron
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Change Your Internal Conversations to Control Your Anger
Every Holiday season Vicki found herself angry and silently seething at her older sister, Susie, and mother as they were merrily chatting about Susie's successful life.Thanksgiving was no exception. Vicki had to sit stoically while Mom praised Susie's new ...
Tips to Beat Depression
We all have days when we are down, worn out and just not feeling all that happy. That's okay. You need to have days like this, otherwise how would you know when you are happy? You appreciate your good days even more when you have the occasional bad day ...
Wealth Creation
Learn to live within your income. Some day you may have to live without it."Anybody can earn money--the trick today is to save money.Probably every man and woman in moderate circumstances is either saving money or has planned to do so before long. It is ...
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1. Recognize that life is what you get when you're born...
...Living is what you do with it! You can sit back and wait for life to happen to you or you can make it happen yourself. As Maya Angelou once said, "Life likes to be taken by the lapel and told, "I'm with you kid. Let's go!"
2. Define life... It leads to the fine life.
Life is not a slogan, no matter what Nike, McDonald's, ABC, NBC, or any other media giant might have you believe. While those "Life is..." t-shirts are often witty, the philosophy they propose, like the shirt itself, are rarely "one size fits all." Define life and living on your own terms and you've a better chance of getting both.
3. Make up your own rules.
Many people believe that "life is a game." Maybe so, but most games have rules and clear cut definitions of winning and losing. We didn't get rulebooks when we were born and that leaves us free to make up our own rules about life, living, losing, and winning.
4. Take charge of your life.
Once you've made up your rules you can start taking charge of your life. And when you take charge of your life, as Geoffrey Abert said, "...there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life."
5. Little things mean a lot.
No matter how we live, life throws a lot of little negative things in our way that must be dealt with else they will greatly diminish how we enjoy our days. Stephen Vincent Benet said it best: "Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways."
6. Employ the power of positive quitting.
Most of us view quitting as something NEGATIVE, but it's not. "Winners NEVER quit," we're told when, in reality, winners quit all the time, choosing to STOP doing things that aren't creating the results they desire.
7. Create your personal quit list.
Examine your life closely and you'll find all sorts of things you do and/or tolerate that hold you back, slow you down, or affect you negatively in some other way. Decide which ones you really want to be rid of and write them down.
8. On your mark, get set, QUIT!
Now start quitting the things you listed. Doing so will immediately create a positive "charge" in your life as you rid yourself of these negatives and create the room in your life for new, more positive experiences.
9. Charge into your future!
As you recreate this positive force in your life, take big, massive leaps into your future. Be imaginative, bold, and brave! The results may surprise you.
10. Use everything.
You are blessed with a particular set of skills and talents that NO ONE else has. Use every skill and talent to live your life as joyfully and abundantly as possible. Leave this life as Erma Bombeck wished to: "When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.'"
About the author:
Jim M. Allen, The Big Idea Coach, is a professional life coach and the editor of the self-help website: http://www.MyNewAttitude.com
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